All parents would love to raise a confident child to face the world and his future. Here is the continuation of what Mommy Althea and I learned from the Parenting Seminar (Parenting God’s Way) hosted by our children’s school.
SUSTAINED SUPPORT is one of the healthy parenting patterns we learned during the seminar. The story of the Prodigal Son in the Bible is the best illustration of a parent who supported a child regardless of what he did. We are to send the message to our children that we will be there no matter what.
Confidence is honed at home by loving parents.
The confident child…
Knows that he or she is loved.
When was the last time you said “I love you” to your child? We only not say it but mean it. The speaker said that a person who feels unloved goes through life with a HOLE IN A BUCKET. That person will always feel empty. Make sure that your child’s love bucket is full.
Accepts and likes himself/herself.
Parents should affirm the worth and importance of the child. Saying to your child, “We just love the way God made you” will create a very positive self-image.When my daughter was about 3 years old, she told me: “Sabi sa akin ni Daddy, ang ganda ganda mo Maggy” (Daddy told me, you are very beautiful Maggy). That statement made an imprint in her whole being. She continued to tell herself that.
Is sure of his/her beliefs.
A confident child has a strong foundation regarding his beliefs and convictions about the world and himself. Children respond to different situations based on what they believe in and convicted to do. Their convictions and beliefs are strengthened by what they see from the significant adults around them.
Expresses himself/herself freely and options are heard and respected.
One of the most important things I learned during the seminar is honoring the “NO” of my children. Two-year-old children can easily learn how to say “No!”. When we honor their “No”, they learn that their voices carry weight.
When we honor our child’s NO we are teaching him to be ready to say “NO” to a friend offering a cigarette, or to a classmate convincing her to skip the class. Our “yes” means nothing until we can say “no”.
Is willing to venture, to take risks, or to try new things
Confidence eliminates fear to venture, take risks or try new things. Let us support our kids when they want to discover their strengths and talent. Though most often this may be costly, the results may be priceless.
Fears God more than man
We do not want our child to be a man-pleaser but a God-pleaser.
“Fear of the LORD is the foundation of wisdom. Knowledge of the Holy One results in good judgment.” Proverbs 9:10
Strength to Stand Alone
Even as an adult, I find it difficult to stand alone with regards to my beliefs and opinions. How much more for young children? They always have the tendency to go with the flow. Confidence gives them the power to stand alone. It will be a delight to hear that your child is the only one who did not cheat in the class or the only one who did not lie about her test score.
Peace with God
To have peace with God is to accept His forgiveness for all your shortcomings and mistakes. Teach your children to ask God for forgiveness and that He will always have the heart to forgive and listen to them. And as parents, we also need to ask our children to forgive us for all our mistakes. Forgiveness will always mend broken relationships. It strengthens the family bond.
Are you raising a confident child?