Parenting goes through seasons. We were finished with the terrible two’s stage, the exciting preschool stage and almost finishing grade school stage. But somewhere in between grade school and high school is a season when you have a child who is not yet a teenager…but not a kid anymore.
So how will you know you have “almost teenager” (preteens) in the house???
- Answering “No, you are not allowed” is not sufficient anymore.
Preteens would often ask for the reasons behind your objections. Just saying “No” is not acceptable anymore. Be prepared to go through lengthy discussions (including issues about “what is fair?”).
- Gadgets are not just for playing Minecraft… Viber and Messenger are new discoveries.
My preteen does not have social media account yet. We still believe that he is too young to handle social media. But, he discovered Viber and Messenger. Playdates, basketball games and birthday get-togethers are now scheduled via messaging group of friends.
- Someone is by the door looking for your preteen.
If you live in a village or a place where neighbors get together in the clubhouse or basketball court, then be ready for other preteens pressing the doorbell of your home. Other kids will usually come over to “hang out” (gone were the days when we call this event “tambay”) or fetch each other to play outdoors.
- Shoe stores/boutiques replaced Toy Kingdom/Toys R’ Us.
If you ask your preteen to look for something they like for their birthday, do not expect that they will go to toy stores. They will be checking expensive shoes and clothes. Now, budget for getting presents radically changes!
- You cannot pick clothes for them anymore.
Preteens will have their own sense of fashion and choose the clothes they want to wear. Parents should give them freedom to express themselves but limitations should also be clear. Fashionable but decent!
I thought that breastfeeding, changing nappies and sleepless nights were all very challenging tasks for parents (most especially moms!). But stages after that are equally difficult 🙂
What stage of parenting are you in right now?