A friend’s Facebook post reminded me of a time when I was so into career-building (as a big law associate) that I only saw my daughter
- a few minutes in the morning when I would open one eye and groggily bid her goodbye before she went off to school); and
- a few minutes at night (when I would ask about her day and read her stories). Then I would answer emails after she sleeps. Part of my weekend would also be dedicated to work.
Thankfully I came to my senses, with the help of my good friend, Mommy Zen. I realized that my daughter needs more of me. So now even if I have a lot of things to do and need to zip around the Philippines, I make sure that I spend meaningful time in the mornings and evenings with her.
When I absolutely need to work on weekends or be out-of-town I bring her with me and we have mini-adventures together. My mother also brought me with her.
When she was 7 I brought her with me to a case mediation in Los Angeles. When I needed to be in the mediation, she stayed in the LA law firm’s conference room and stayed there until we came back. I set her up with her lunch (hello nuggets!), water, milk, books, iPad and showed her where the toilet was. I would check on her once in a while. We went to Disneyland the day before and then visited my aunt in San Francisco after the mediation (it was an activity packed 5 days!).
Knowing that I can’t (and wont!) bring home work also helped me to be productive, because I know that I needed to finish everything before going home.
How do you combine children and career?