Early last year when I was buckling down on being a better mom, I asked E to help out in the house regularly.
So now on weekdays she clears the table after dinner and we take turns washing the dishes.
On weekends she throws the trash. She puts away the groceries, except for those to be put on the high shelves. On occasion, she wipes down counters, sweeps the floor, walks the dog, makes the bed, packs her bag for travel, assists in baking and cooking.
She is of course responsible for putting away her toys and stuff, with a little clean up help from Ate D and I.
E’s general attitude about chores has developed from I-will-whine-about-everything to sure-Mom! This happened because she took pride in being helpful and contributing to the family.
Why do kids need to do chores?
It helps them succeed.
The longest longitudinal study of humans ever conducted is called the Harvard Grant Study. It found that professional success in life, which is what we want for our kids, that professional success in life comes from having done chores as a kid, and the earlier you started, the better, that a roll-up-your-sleeves- and-pitch-in mindset, a mindset that says, there’s some unpleasant work, someone’s got to do it, it might as well be me, a mindset that says, I will contribute my effort to the betterment of the whole, that that’s what gets you ahead in the workplace. Now, we all know this. You know this. – from the Ted Talk of the author of How to Raise an Adult.
It trains them in ‘adulting‘.
- Kids who help around the house become better team players, co-workers, and eventually life partners.
- Kids actually love to help out, as it empowers them and bolsters their self-esteem. They take pride in feeling needed and important within the family.
- Enabling kids to do things for themselves (such as pack their own bags for school) fosters personal responsibility and independence.
What chores did you do growing up?